• Discuss pregnancy with your partner over a meal (not straight after sex!) so that you’re both on the same page about starting a family
• Buy an ovulation kit or learn to recognise your symptoms of fertility
• Delay having sex (for a few days) until you know you have ovulated i.e. your body is fertile
• Don’t let your man sit in a hot bath, wear tight undies or spend the day cycling before you have sex (these activities affect sperm count and mobility)
• Perhaps one partner is reluctant to start a family. Find out why: fears of death, abnormality, illness, financial burden, interfering with travel/promotion opportunities or achieving goals, fear of loss of identity, figure, financial independence
• Chat to your doctor if you have libido issues or he has erectile problems
• Ignore pressure from family and in-laws
• Discuss anxiety about current chronic illnesses and the real fear of leaving children orphaned or your partner a single parent.
Getting pregnant is NOT a solution for marriage problems! Having children is a life-long commitment and the decision should not be taken lightly. Parenting doesn’t get any easier the older you and your children get! Every newborn’s birth-right is to be welcomed and to be loved. If you can provide these … you are ready for parenthood!
