C’mon
Girls …. Let’s get it together!
I can’t but help compare Covid-19
insecurities and uncertainties with those that people experienced during World
War 1 and 2. The slogan ‘Keep calm and carry on’ applies as much today as it
did then.
First and foremost, girls, look after
your mental health. Don’t spend your days watching the news, avoid panic
chatter and negative people. Above all, do your best to keep a level head.
Admittedly, there’s nowhere to hide
from the coronavirus. This nasty micro-organism has invaded everybody’s life in
one way or another – health, work, investments, holidays, travel opportunities, and even our spiritual lives. Introverts, who prefer their own company, may
cope better than extroverts right now. But, as the saying goes, ‘this too shall
pass’, and when this happens, introverts may have grown roots into the couch by
then, and struggle to fit back into society.
Unfortunately, not much attention has
been given to mental health issues here in South Africa where there’s a serious
shortage of psychiatrists, psychologists, and councillors. Spare a thought for
our nurses, doctors, and health-care workers who are struggling to cope with
people who are panicking. As for parents doing their best to stay sane with
boxed-up children who are fed-up with lockdown, I say ‘Well done so far!’
That being as it may, we all need
some coping tips. Based on the advice of Johannesburg based psychiatrist; Rita
Thom, here are the top few.
1. Don’t be afraid – be
prepared:
Sit the family down and outline your challenges
and options over the next few months. Draw
up a plan of action that includes your children’s suggestions. Depending on
their age and level of understanding, share with them what they need to know.
If you keep your children involved, they will be more co-operative.
2. Don’t panic:
During these difficult times,
insecurity and the constant fear of the unknown (despite information overload)
can lead to anxiety disorders and even burnout. If you’re having sleepless
nights and nightmares, if you’re feeling isolated and unable to concentrate,
irritable, and depressed, you could be heading that way. Be honest with yourself
and your family. Share with them how you’re feeling. Stop watching the news –
it’s made to be dramatic and instill a sense of fear and panic.
3. Look after yourself:
You can’t look after your family if
you don’t look after yourself. Ask for help. Join parenting online groups that
have a positive outlook and give you practical and encouraging advice. If you
need help, you can contact the South African Depression and Anxiety Group.
Their 24-hour helpline number is 0800 456 789.
4. Help your children:
Although children are more adaptable
to change than we are, they’re not spared anxiety, stress, and depression – even
babies and toddlers can pick up your stress signals. It’s difficult for them to
tell you how they’re feeling, so they do this with body language and behavior
changes. Living in a confined space is frustrating – especially for children
with ADHD and other mental difficulties. Stick to a routine, and reward your
children with hugs and cuddles, praises, and privileges like watching TV or playing
computer games. (Remind them that social distancing does not mean locking their
sister outside!)
5. Reach out – help
others: Once you find a good way to do something, share it.
“Humans seem to hold on more tenaciously to a
cultural identity that is learned through suffering than that acquired through
pleasure and delight.” Anthropologist: Margaret Mead.
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