Monday, 18 May 2015

Factoring personal ambition into the mom equation...

While every woman’s circumstances are different, she needs to ask herself ‘where to from here?’ If you’re going back to your same job after maternity leave, is there an opportunity for promotion? If you’re lucky enough to stay at home, what will you do? Is it possible to work mornings or part-time from home? How can you work towards these preferences? Can you study part-time, take a sabbatical or wait for the next intake of students if your studies have been interrupted by pregnancy? Is it possible for your career to take a whole new direction so you can follow your dreams – buy a sewing machine and learn dressmaking, learn cake-decorating and catering, become an entrepreneur, buy yourself a camera and take up photography, pick up your paint brushes and finish your art degree, buy a keyboard and teach music appreciation at the nursery schools, take up pole dancing for fun and exercise, register for a correspondence course in writing, study part-time for a BCom or a BA or a MA in Creative Brand Leadership for example. The possibilities are endless but the opportunities and practicalities of reaching these goal posts may seem insurmountable!

Have you heard the expression: You can eat an elephant – but only one spoonful at a time? Projects take time, effort and commitment -  but if you persist and persevere with patience, you will succeed!
List your goals:

•  What would you like to do?
•  How can you make this happen?
•  Is this affordable?
•  Where do you start?

Looking back on my life, between having babies and bringing them up, I kept up with my nursing by going to workshops, conferences and seminars whenever I could – and ran Childbirth Education classes from the local community centre. I did a sewing course and made track-suits when they were trendy, a toy-making course, calligraphy classes, Bible Study, writing and public-speaking courses, computer classes, mother-baby exercise classes. I met amazing people who encouraged and motivated me. I made new friends. This boosted my confidence and renewed my energy and zest for life.. 

Can you cut costs and put that extra money into a special savings account so you can pay for what you want to do? Will your man support your project and be prepared to share the responsibilities of looking after the baby? How many years will it take – and what will you achieve in the end?

If anybody would like to share their success story, please get in touch with me on the face book page! I would love to hear from you.