We’re not
pregnant …… yet
It’s 2020 and you want to have a baby. While some of your friends fell
pregnant prettily easily, it is likely that a few really struggled, and may have
needed the help of a fertility clinic.
What are your chances?
This depends on a lot. Things like hereditary factors – did your mom
struggle to get pregnant with you? - health issues – are you over or underweight,
have blood-pressure issues and are you taking medication for a chronic illness?
Have you been using hormonal contraceptives, for how long and finally, what are
your periods like?
The clue to fertility is, without a doubt, your periods. Periods tell us
so much about our health, its a pity we don’t use them as a health barometer. This
is because Mother Nature is so meticulous about building the perfect ‘nest’ to
incubate our babies, that the first sign of an illness or any of the body’s
systems going a bit haywire, and the menstrual cycle loses its rhythm. The hormonal
balancing act that synchronizes the timing of the menstrual cycle is not unlike
the workings of clock or calisthenics.
For example, women who have scanty, irregular and unpredictable periods
or heavy, prolonged and very painful periods may have ovulation problems. This
means that getting pregnant is pretty much a hit or miss. The good news is that
when a woman ovulates, her pre-pregnancy hormones peak during this time making
sex absolutely amazing. When this happens, a woman is more likely to have an
orgasm. An orgasm is likely to maximize her chances of getting pregnant because, during this peak of pleasure, her womb contracts and the cervix (mouth of the
womb) dips into the top of the vagina to literally ‘catch’ the microscopic
tadpole-like sperm.
To get your body ready for pregnancy, it’s important for it to be balanced.
Your weight, sugar, hormonal and stress levels need to be under control. This is
so that not only will you get pregnant when the fertilised ova gets over its
first obstacle course through the fallopian tube and lands like a lunar space
module onto the surface of the womb, endures the first three weeks of pregnancy
without the backup of a placenta, and finally, grows and develops into a baby during
the next ten lunar months in captivity, your body will also survive a series of
endurance tests before the Grand Finale – labour and birth!
I think this gives you pretty much of an idea that planning a baby is not
like going to buy a microwave, investing in a new house, changing your career path
or planning a trip overseas. It’s pretty much a change of lifestyle and
body-image, the unselfish sharing of everything you will ever own (including
your body, mind and soul) your life (night-time shifts till your children leave
home – and beyond) and making sacrifices only a saint would do. The first hint
of a smile, the first word (ma-ma of course!), the first ‘I love you’ will make
up for every effort you made to get pregnant in the first place. Good luck!
